Admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them … ( wife beating )
The Almighty said:
(الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنْفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلًا إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا)
سورة النساء 34
( wife beating )
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allâh and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allâh orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband’s property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see illconduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allâh is Ever Most High, Most Great. surah Al Nisa 34
Prophet Mohammad said:
( ” Fear Allah concerning women. You have married them upon the honesty of Allah. They have become legitimate for you upon the word of Allah. Their duty towards you is not to welcome or invite anyone other than yourselves to your bed, a matter which you abhor most. If they do, beat them in a non-painful way” ). Narrated by Muslim. Also, Ibn Nafi’ narrated from Malik, from Yahia ibn Said that the prophet was asked to give permission for wives to be beaten. He said:” Beat, however the best of you will not beat ( their wives ).
A husband must never resort to beating his wife
So, a husband must never resort to beating his wife unless very necessary, and when all the other means are useless. This is because beating can make her hostile, spoil her disposition, eventually cause her divorce and agitate her folks, parents and family. Currently, beating can cause a lot of trouble … ( wife beating )
So, a husband shouldn’t be rash or hasty, quick to beat his wife, unless necessary and in case he guarantees there will be no ill effects. So if beating one’s wife will lead to separation and the hostility of one’s kinspeople or big troubles, it should be avoided. Also, a husband should tolerate the shortcomings by the wife; until Allah mends things, by using preaching, advice, and desertion. A husband should be wise enough. Beating results in lots of troubles. It may lead to unfavorable consequences. A husband may want his wife to modify or correct her conduct. However, beating may lead to the opposite, deterioration and increase trouble, it must be abandoned.
The fact is that beating is a kind of license to discipline a wife if necessary, after preaching and advice. It is inadvisable to hurry resorting to it or rejoicing at it or use it as a permanent remedy; rather it is better to be delayed. ( wife beating )
A husband had better forgive … ( wife beating )
A husband had better forgive, not beat his wife to maintain marital love and mercy. The advantage of leaving aside beating wives is reinforced by what is mentioned in Bokhary and Muslim; and what Aisha narrated that:” The prophet had never beaten anything using his hand; neither a woman nor a servant, unless in the way of Allah.”