Khadijah bint Khuwaylid RA First Muslim and Beloved Wife of the Prophet ﷺ

Khadijah bint Khuwaylid (may Allah be pleased with her) was not a distant historical figure for British Muslim women in 2026. Instead, she is a living blueprint. She was a businesswoman, a wife by her own choice, an older bride, a mother of six and the first human being to embrace Islam. Moreover, she believed in Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) when nobody else did. This guide tells her full story for British Muslim families, with practical lessons for women, mothers and parents raising daughters and sons in the UK.

Who was Khadijah bint Khuwaylid (RA)?

Khadijah bint Khuwaylid came into the world in Makkah around 555 CE, into the noble Quraysh tribe. Her father, Khuwaylid ibn Asad, was a respected merchant, and her mother was Fatimah bint Za'idah. As a result, Khadijah grew up surrounded by wealth, intellect and social standing. Makkah admired her intelligence, her impeccable conduct and her sharp business mind.

In fact, before she met Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), people already called her "At-Tahirah" ("The Pure One"), a rare honour for a woman in that society.

Moreover, the Prophet (peace be upon him) named her among the four greatest women of all humanity, alongside Maryam, the mother of Isa; Asiyah, the wife of Pharaoh; and Fatimah, her own youngest daughter (Jami' al-Tirmidhi 3878). Allah Himself also sent her greetings of peace through angel Jibril. Therefore, her position is unique in the entire Islamic tradition.

Her business and her independence

Khadijah bint Khuwaylid was a successful merchant in her own right. She inherited her father's business and ran it independently, hiring caravans to carry her goods on long trade routes between Makkah and the markets of Sham (modern-day Syria, Jordan, Lebanon, and Palestine). She did not run her business through a male relative as a token figure — she made the decisions, managed the wealth, and built the network. In a society that placed serious limits on women's public life, she was a clear exception.

This single fact is worth dwelling on for British Muslim women today. The very first Muslim was a working woman who ran her own business. She did not wait for someone to give her permission to use her intelligence and her resources in the world. The Islamic tradition's foundation includes her independent professional life as a normal and honoured part of the picture.

How she met Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)

Khadijah's wealth and standing meant she regularly hired trustworthy men to lead her trade caravans. When she heard about a young man in Makkah named Muhammad ibn Abdullah — a man widely known by the title Al-Amin, "the Trustworthy" — she sent for him and offered him significantly better terms than she offered other employees, asking him to lead her caravan to Sham.

Young Muhammad (peace be upon him) accepted the offer. He travelled with her servant Maysarah to monitor the trade. The journey was extraordinarily successful — the caravan returned with double the usual profits. But what struck Maysarah more than the financial profits was the conduct he had witnessed. He reported back to Khadijah about Muhammad's honesty in every transaction, his calm temperament, his refusal to lie even in small matters, and the unusual signs Maysarah had observed (in some narrations, a cloud shading him during the desert journey).

The marriage — on Khadijah's proposal

Khadijah bint Khuwaylid was deeply impressed. She was forty years old at the time. In fact, several of the most powerful men in Makkah had already proposed to her, and she had refused them all. After hearing Maysarah's report, she did something striking: she initiated the proposal herself, through her trusted friend Nafisa bint Munyah.

Nafisa gently asked Muhammad (peace be upon him) why he had not yet married. However, he replied that he did not have the financial means. Nafisa then asked: "If a woman of beauty, wealth, lineage, and honour were available to you, would you accept?" She named Khadijah, and he was surprised that Khadijah would agree.

Finally, the marriage was consumated. He was about twenty-five; she was about forty. Moreover, the mahr was generous, and their families witnessed the union. Until her death some twenty-five years later, the Prophet (peace be upon him) took no other wife, even though polygamy was common among the wealthy.

Their family

Khadijah and Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) had six children :

• Qasim — their first son, who died in early childhood. The Prophet's kunya, Abu al-Qasim, comes from him.

• Zaynab — their eldest daughter, who later married Abu al-As ibn al-Rabi.

• Ruqayyah — who later married Uthman ibn Affan (third Caliph of Islam).

• Umm Kulthum — who, after Ruqayyah's death, also married Uthman ibn Affan.

• Fatimah — their youngest daughter, the mother of Hasan and Husayn, the wife of Ali ibn Abi Talib, and one of the four greatest women of all time.

• Abdullah — their second son, who also died in early childhood.

However, the grief of losing two sons in childhood is rarely spoken about in the simplified versions of her story, but it is part of who she was. Indeed, she was a mother who knew bereavement deeply, who comforted her husband through the same grief, and who continued in her faith and her household responsibilities through every loss.

The first revelation — the moment that changed history

When Muhammad (peace be upon him) was approximately forty years old, he had been retreating regularly to the cave of Hira in the mountain of Jabal an-Nour, just outside Makkah, for periods of solitary worship and reflection. On one of these retreats, in the month of Ramadan, the angel Jibril (Gabriel) appeared to him with the first revelation:

اقْرَأْ بِاسْمِ رَبِّكَ الَّذِي خَلَق

"Recite, in the name of your Lord who created." — Al-‘Alaq 96:1

The experience was overwhelming. The Prophet returned home trembling, asking Khadijah to cover him in a blanket. He recounted what had happened. Many spouses might have responded with fear, dismissal, or doubt. Khadijah's response is one of the most quoted moments in the Seerah:

"By Allah, He will never let you down. You keep good relations with your kin, help the poor and destitute, serve your guests generously, and assist the deserving calamity-afflicted ones."

Sahih al-Bukhari records this response, the first declaration of faith in Islam. She did not say "I believe" using the technical formula that would later develop — she said something far more powerful. She affirmed her husband's character so totally that no other explanation but truth was possible. Her certainty that he was who he said he was, before any community, any institution, or any tradition existed to confirm it, is the foundation on which the early Muslim community was built.

Confirmation through Waraqah ibn Nawfal

Khadijah then took Muhammad (peace be upon him) to her cousin Waraqah ibn Nawfal, an elderly Christian scholar in Makkah who had studied the previous scriptures deeply. When Waraqah heard the description of the angel and the message, he confirmed: this was the same Namus (the messenger angel) that had come to Musa (Moses). He told the Prophet that his people would oppose him and drive him out of his city, and prayed that he would still be alive to support him when that day came.

Waraqah died shortly afterwards. The active support of the new mission would fall, in those crucial earliest years, almost entirely on Khadijah's shoulders.

The first human being to embrace Islam

Khadijah bint Khuwaylid was the first person on earth to believe in Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) as the Messenger of Allah. The Companions in their later lectures and writings often emphasise this point with deliberate care. Before Abu Bakr, before Ali, before Bilal, before Zayd ibn Haritha — Khadijah believed first. She was the earliest convert in Islamic history, and the foundation of the small group of early believers who would carry the message through its hardest decades.

As a result, from that day, her household became the first Muslim home. The Prophet (peace be upon him) prayed there. Moreover, she raised her daughters within it as the first Muslim girls. The earliest converts — including her cousin Waraqah's testimony, then the children of the household, then the small circle of close companions — all came into Islam through the support structure that Khadijah maintained.

Her wealth in service of the message

In fact, the early Muslim community in Makkah was small and poor. Many of the early converts were enslaved people, women, the elderly, and the marginalised — people whom the wealthy Quraysh treated with contempt. Khadijah used her substantial wealth to:

Free enslaved Muslims whose masters persecuted them.

• Feed the poor of the early Muslim community.

• Support the household so that the Prophet (peace be upon him) could focus on the mission.

• Provide for the sustained presence of the message in Makkah even as it became increasingly opposed.

By the end of her life, much of her former wealth had been spent in the service of Islam. In other words, she did not reserve it for her own comfort. This act of generosity, sustained over years, is part of what made her death such a turning point for the Prophet (peace be upon him) and the early community.

The boycott of Sh'eb Abi Talib

By around the seventh year of the mission, the Quraysh leaders realised that persecution alone could not destroy the Muslim community. Therefore, they imposed a social and economic boycott on Banu Hashim and Banu al-Muttalib, the two clans that protected the Prophet (peace be upon him). They forced the Muslims and their relatives into a narrow valley outside Makkah called Sh'eb Abi Talib.

As a result, for about three years, the Quraysh refused to trade with them, marry into them, or give them food. Consequently, children cried from hunger, and adults survived on tree leaves and food that relatives smuggled in at night.

Indeed, Khadijah bint Khuwaylid was among them, now in her early sixties. However, the wealthy noblewoman did not return to her family or seek shelter in her lineage. Instead, she stayed with her husband and the Muslims throughout the boycott, and those three years severely damaged her health.

Her death and the "Year of Sorrow"

Shortly after the boycott ended, Khadijah passed away. Historians dispute the exact date but generally place it in the tenth year of prophethood (around 619–620 CE), in the month of Ramadan. She was approximately sixty-five years old. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) buried her himself in the cemetery of Hujun in Makkah.

The same year, the Prophet's beloved uncle Abu Talib also died. The doublr loss of his wife of twenty-five years and his most powerful protector in Makkah marked one of the most devastating periods of his life. The early Muslim community remembered the year by a specific name that has stayed in the tradition ever since: ‘Am al-Huzn — "The Year of Sorrow".

The Prophet's love for Khadijah after her death

Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) lived for about thirteen years after Khadijah's death. He married other wives, all of whom became Mothers of the Believers and served the early Muslim community. However, his love for Khadijah bint Khuwaylid remained unique. Authentic narrations describe him:

• Slaughtering animals and sending the meat to her old friends, years after her death.

• Becoming visibly emotional when people mentioned her name.

• Saying: "She believed in me when no one else did; she accepted Islam when people rejected me; she helped and comforted me when there was no one to help me; and Allah blessed me with children through her when He did not bless me with children through other women."

• Telling Aisha (RA), in a moment of jealousy, that Allah had not given him anyone better than Khadijah, as Aisha herself later reported.

In fact, this public love lasted more than a decade. Therefore, it shows what kind of marriage they had, and what kind of woman she was.

Allah's greeting through Jibril

One of the most extraordinary honours in the Islamic tradition is recorded in an authentic hadith. Jibril came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and said: "O Messenger of Allah, when Khadijah arrives, give her greetings of peace from her Lord, and give her the good tidings of a house in Paradise made of pearls in which there will be no noise nor any fatigue."

Therefore, the greeting from Allah Himself, conveyed through the highest of angels, is a unique honour. Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim both record it. No other figure in the Islamic tradition receives this special honour in this exact way during their lifetime.

What Khadijah's life means for British Muslim women today

Her story carries specific lessons for UK Muslim women navigating modern British life.

1. Faith and professional life are not opposites

Khadijah ran her own business in pre-Islamic Makkah, continued to be honoured for it, and remained the first Muslim and the most beloved Muslim woman to the Prophet (peace be upon him). The British Muslim woman in 2026 who runs her own business, leads a team at work, runs a school, practises medicine, lectures at university, or builds a startup is in continuity with the very first Muslim. Her professional life and her faith are not in tension; they are part of the same legacy.

2. Older brides are not lesser brides

Khadijah was approximately forty years old when she married the man who would become the Prophet of Islam. Her age was not a disqualification. It was, in many ways, part of what made her the right partner for him. British Muslim women navigating cultural expectations about age and marriage have, in Khadijah's example, the strongest possible counter-evidence that age is not the measure of value.

3. Choosing your partner based on character is a Sunnah

In fact, Khadijah’s criterion for her marriage was not lineage or wealth (she had both). It was character. She married Muhammad (peace be upon him) because Maysarah's report told her about his honesty, his moral conduct, and his trustworthiness. UK Muslim women considering marriage proposals have, in her example, the explicit Prophetic precedent that character is the foundational criterion — everything else is secondary.

4. Initiating a proposal is also a Sunnah

Khadijah initiated her proposal to the Prophet (peace be upon him) through her friend Nafisa. The Islamic tradition does not require women to wait passively to be approached. UK Muslim women considering whether and how to indicate interest in a marriage prospect have, in Khadijah's example, the most influential possible model.

5. A Muslim wife can be a primary financial supporter without losing dignity

Khadijah's wealth supported the early Muslim community for years. She did not lose her dignity, her honour, or her husband's respect for being the financially significant party in the marriage. UK Muslim wives whose careers happen to be more lucrative than their husbands', or who provide financially for their families, are in good Islamic company.

6. Faith is not a quiet private matter when it really counts

Khadijah's faith was not private. She declared it through her actions: by spending her wealth, by entering the boycott valley, by raising her household as a Muslim home in a Makkah that was hostile to Islam. UK Muslim women in workplaces, schools, councils, and public life have her example of public, courageous, dignified Muslim presence.

What her life means for British Muslim families raising daughters

For UK Muslim parents specifically, the story of Khadijah is one of the most important you can give to your daughter. Practical applications:

• Say her name often. Daughters benefit from knowing they are part of a tradition that includes Khadijah, Maryam, Asiyah, Fatimah, Aisha, and many others as foundational figures — not as marginal or supporting characters.

• Teach the timing of her marriage. Specifically: she was 40, he was 25. She was the wealthy one. She made the proposal. None of these facts diminished her honour. All of them are explicitly part of the Islamic tradition.

• Use her as the example for ambition and faith together. A British Muslim girl who sees her potential career path as somehow in tension with her faith should hear about Khadijah's caravans, her trade routes, her management of significant wealth, and her honour as At-Tahirah. There is no tension.

• Connect Surah al-Alaq to her. When your daughter reads or recites the first revelation, tell her the story of who comforted the Prophet (peace be upon him) when he came home shaking from the cave. The first declaration of trust in the message came from a woman.

• Honour her at family events. Mention Khadijah by name in family duas, in stories at iftar, in conversations about marriage and character. Her name should be familiar to your daughter from her earliest years.

A note for British Muslim sons too

The lessons of Khadijah's life are not just for daughters. UK Muslim boys benefit enormously from knowing that a woman supported and validated Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), and that he honoured her strength, intelligence, wealth, and faith for the rest of his life. A boy who understands this from childhood grows into a man who looks for the same character in his own life partner, who respects the women in his family and community, and who recognises that remarkable women, as much as remarkable men, carried the early Islamic tradition on their shoulders.

How to teach this story to your child

• Use the dramatic moments. The successful caravan to Sham, the proposal through Nafisa, the comforting of the Prophet after Hira, Waraqah's confirmation, the boycott in Sh'eb Abi Talib, Allah's greeting through Jibril, the Year of Sorrow.

• Connect to Surah al-‘Alaq. Have your child read or recite the first verses revealed and tell them whose home those verses came back to.

• Highlight the honour she received from Allah Himself. The greeting through Jibril and the promise of a house in Paradise are easy for children to remember.

• Avoid the common simplification. Do not present her merely as "the Prophet's first wife." Tell your child what she actually did.

• Make her name familiar. Use her name in family duas. Mention her in conversations about marriage, business, generosity, and faith.

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"The best of the women of her time was Maryam bint Imran, and the best of the women of her time was Khadijah bint Khuwaylid." — Sahih al-Bukhari 3432

May Allah be pleased with her, and may He honour the British Muslim daughters who carry her story forward.